Milo's Fruit Fiasco

On January 1, Alec announced that his new year’s resolution would be to eat more fruit, and he invited Milo to join him.  You need to know that, with the exception of apple sauce, Milo eats no fruit (and virtually no vegetables).   He accepted Alec’s invitation, but added:  “I’ll bet Greece has very good fruit.  I’ll start eating fruit this summer in Greece.”  Alec agreed to this compromise. So you can imagine that Alec and I were pretty excited when we finally arrived in Greece and made that first trip to the market with Milo.  He asked us to buy watermelon and apples, which, he declared, would be his first two fruits.  He asked for some apple slices on his dinner plate.

But then, when it actually came time to put the apple in his mouth, and the rest of us were leaning forward, holding our breath . . . he couldn’t do it.  Or he wouldn’t. I think we’ve been hornswaggled, that the little minx just bought himself seven months of not being badgered by his parents.

We’ve tried most of the obvious tactics. We’re good role models.  We always have a variety of fruit and vegetables on hand.  Milo even grew vegetables at his school in Barcelona and loved selling them in the schoolyard, a la Alice Waters’ Edible Schoolyard.  But try them?  He is more of an entrepreneur than an omnivore.

If I could do one thing over as a parent, it would be to capitulate less to the demands for kid food—hot dogs, grilled cheese, macaroni and cheese, and all kinds of nuggets.  C.C., although she eats a very healthy and balanced diet, has no desire to take risks where food is concerned.  Like most parents of my generation, we have gotten ourselves into a situation in which we cook not one, but two or three dinners.  My parents would never have been so gullible.  Where did we go wrong? 

When we have had breakthroughs, such as the curry noodles Milo has come to love, they have been the result of going to places we really want to eat that do not have kid food.  And somehow, our kids don’t starve.  Although I have been grateful for every bowl of spaghetti Bolognese we have encountered on our travels, I sometimes wish the dish had never been invented.

We have no desire to have power struggles over food—although we did set up an unfortunate face-off between Milo and a tiny piece of mango in Mesta that lasted more than an hour.  We clearly lost the battle.  So we have resorted to a time-tested strategy that we probably should have implemented years ago.  We put something on Milo’s plate at every meal—a grape, a cherry tomato, a slice of cooked carrot—and he does not get a sweet unless he eats it.  He’s eating a lot less dessert these days.